职场拒绝清单：混职场绝不能做这七件事(3)

5. Let the past dictate the future.

5. 让过去决定未来

Mistakes are valuable. Learn from them.Then let them go.

错误很宝贵。从错误中学习。然后就放下吧。

Easier said than done? It all depends on your perspective. When something goes wrong, turn it into an opportunity to learn something you didn't know--especially about yourself.

说起来容易做起来难？这完全取决于你怎么想。如果你犯了错，把它当成学习未知的机会——尤其是认识自己。

When something goes wrong for someone else, turn it into an opportunity to be gracious, forgiving, and understanding.

如果别人犯了错，把错误变成体现你亲切、宽容、理解他人的机会。

The past is just training. The past should definitely inform but in no way define you —unless you let it.

过去只是锻炼。过去会告诉你信息，却不能界定你——除非你让它这么做。

6. Wait until I'm sure I will succeed.

6. 直到确定能成功再做

You can never feel sure you will succeed at something new, but you can always feel sure you are committed to giving something your best.And you can always feel sure you will try again if you fail.

对于新生事物，你无法保证自己一定能成功，但是你总能确定自己尽最大努力去做了。而且你能确保自己在失败后继续尝试。

Stop waiting. You have a lot less to lose than you think, and everything to gain.

别再等了。你没有那么多的东西要失去，但可以得到很多。

7. Talk behind someone's back.

7. 在背后说人是非

If only because being the focus of gossip sucks. (And so do the people who gossip.)

只是因为成为八卦中心太糟。（聊别人八卦的也不好）

If you've talked to more than one person about something Joe is doing, wouldn't everyone be better off if you stepped up and actually talked to Joe about it? And if it's "not your place" to talk to Joe, it's probably not your place to talk about Joe.

如果你不只跟一个人说乔正在做的事，你跟他本人说不是对大家都更好吗？如果你不方便和乔讨论，那么你或许不应该说他闲话。

Spend your time on productive conversations. You'll get a lot more done--and you'll gain a lot more respect.

把时间花在更有用的对话中吧。你会做好更多事，并且赢得更多尊敬。

8. Say "yes" when I really mean "no."

8. 口是心非

Refusing a request from colleagues, customers, or even friends is really hard. But rarely does saying no go as badly as you expect. Most people will understand, and if they don't, should you care too much about what they think?

拒绝同事、顾客、甚至是朋友的请求真的很难。但是说“不”很少会像你想的那么糟。大多数人会理解的，而且如果他们不理解的话，你也没必要太关心别人的想法吧？

When you say no, at least you'll only feel bad for a few moments. When you say yes to something you really don't want to do you might feel bad for a long time.

当你拒绝别人时，你只会难过一会。而当你同意了不想做的事时，你会难过很久。

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