职场拒绝清单：混职场绝不能做这七件事

If you get decent value from making to-do lists, you'll get huge returns — in productivity, in improved relationships, and in your personal well-being — from adding these items to your not to-do list:

如果你写待办事项会将工作完成的很好，那把下面这些事加到“拒做清单”上会在效率、关系改善，以及个人幸福上得到很大回报。

Every day, make the commitment not to:

每一天都跟自己承诺绝不做：

1. Check my phone while I'm talking to someone.

1. 不边和别人说话边看手机

You've played the, "Is that your phone? Oh, it must be mine," game. You've tried the you-think-sly-but-actually-really-obvious downwards glance. You've done the, "Wait, let me answer this text..." thing.

你玩过这种把戏：“是你的电话响吗？哦，一定是我的”。你以为偷瞄下手机没什么，其实动作很明显。你说过“等一下，让我回个短信”这样的话。

Maybe you didn't even say, "Wait." You just stopped talking, stopped paying attention, and did it.

也许你甚至没有说：“请等我一下”就不说话了，不再认真听，看了手机。

Stop checking your phone. It doesn't notice when you aren't paying attention.

别再看手机了。你分心时它不会察觉。

Other people? They notice.

但别人会注意。

And they care.

而且他们在意。

2. Multitask during a meeting.

2. 开会时做很多事

The easiest way to be the smartest person in the room is to be the person who pays the most attention to the room.

在会议室里做最聪明的人的最简单方法是做最用心听的人。

You'll be amazed by what you can learn, both about the topic of the meeting and about the people in the meeting if you stop multitasking and start paying close attention. You'll understand hidden agendas, you'll spot opportunities to build bridges, and you'll find ways to make yourself indispensable to the people who matter.

如果你停下手中的事开始密切关注会议的话，你会惊讶自己能在会议内容和参会的人中学到的东西。你会明白议程背后的东西，你会发现搭建人脉的机会，而且你会找到让自己对重要人物不可或缺的办法。

It's easy, because you'll be the only one trying.

这很容易做到，因为只有你一个人会尝试。

And you'll be the only one succeeding on multiple levels.

而且你将会是唯一在多个层面成功的人。

3. Think about people who don't make any difference in my life.

3. 关心对你生活没有影响的人

Trust me: The inhabitants of planet Kardashian are okay without you.

相信我：没有你，外星球的居民们一样会过得很好。

But your family, your friends, your employees--all the people that really matter to you--are not.Give them your time and attention.但你的家人、朋友、员工（所有对你很重要的人）不会。花时间多关注他们吧。

They're the ones who deserve it.

他们应该得到你的关心。

4. Use multiple notifications.

4. 设置很多消息通知

You don't need to know the instant you get an email. Or a text. Or a tweet. Or anything else that pops up on your phone or computer.

你没必要立即知道你收到了邮件、短信、推特，还是任何出现在你手机里和电脑上的消息。

If something is important enough for you to do, it's important enough for you to do without interruptions. Focus totally on what you're doing. Then, on a schedule you set--instead of a schedule you let everyone else set--play prairie dog and pop your head upto see what's happening.

如果有些事真的很重要，你不会在做的过程中被打断。全神贯注做手中的事情。然后按你自己定的计划——而不是让别人决定——看看发生了什么事。

And then get right back to work. Focusing on what you are doing is a lot more important than focusing on other people might be doing.

然后回到工作中。专心做自己的事比关心别人做什么重要的多。

They can wait. You, and what is truly important to you, cannot.

可以让别人等。但你，以及真正对你重要的事，是等不了的。

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